This is a guest post by Neal Frankle. He blogs about finding self, health and wealth. He’s a CFP and overcame huge personal obstacles starting at a very young age. After you finish reading this, get his updates at Wealth Pilgrim.
Daniel really honored me by extending an invitation to submit a guest post to his amazing blog.
I’m especially intrigued by the title Daniel chose: Sweating the Big Stuff.
Maybe like you, the blog title reminded me of Richard Carlson’s book, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”. I thought about the message and realized what a stroke of genius Daniel had by selecting the name he did.
At first, I thought he was sending a message similar to that of Carlson’s.
But then I realized what I mistake I’d made.
Carlson’s message is an important one – don’t waste time on trifles.
But Daniel’s message, at least in my opinion, is completely different – and actually more important.
Not only do you have to stop wasting time on small matters, you actually have to do the work – focus on the big stuff and get in gear. You have to be clear about what’s important and then do it. It will mean trade-offs but it will be worth it.
The concept of this was really made clear when I considered all the energy I spend blogging.
When I started out, I was really clear as to what my objectives were. I wanted to become an authority blogger with a large audience and I wanted to forge strong connections with other great bloggers.
The later has been easier to do than the former. Fortunately, the PF blogging community is replete with a huge tribe of wonderful people. They are only too happy to help and they are very welcoming. I’s been a really fun and wonderful experience getting to know people like Daniel.
But let’s get back to the stuff I’ve been sweating.
Of course I am proud of the growth I’ve experienced – but I wanted more. As a result, I started sweating the stuff I thought was big.
For awhile I thought that all that mattered was my subscriber numbers. I did everything I could to grow that number.
Then, I focused on traffic.
After that, it was revenue.
Wrong wrong wrong.
I was sweating the big stuff because I forgot what the big stuff really was. I starting fretting and having real emotional and financial stress.
So what is my real big stuff?
Take care of my family
Make a living.
For me, those are the big things.
Unfortunately, what happened (slowly at first), was that I lost sight of these big ticket items. I turned blog success into numero uno.
As a result of that error, I actually became less able to do the big 5 that mean more to me.
I lost balance. Fortunately, I’m regaining it.
How did I regain my footing?
I created a daily schedule.
I list everything I want to get done and the order of importance. I allocate a certain amount of time and that’s it. If my time is up, I’d simply don’t do anymore.
If that means it doesn’t get done, it doesn’t get done.
My sense is that there will always be more to do in this world and that I can’t learn it all or do it all. If it takes me an extra year or two to master some aspect of blogging, so be it.
I’m the kind of person who is very focused and goal driven. I need to put limits on myself or I go off the deep end.
By putting a schedule together I am able to limit the time I spend on blogging, make the time I do spend very high impact and have a life at the same time.
Do you think you’ve given up too much of your life as a result of blogging? How do you stay balanced?
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